One day, somewhere on the way, we thought about an idea of travelling alone in Thailand. Kevin did it already in Indonesia and Nepal some years ago, but I’ve never tried anything like this. We decided it might be nice to be on your own for a couple of days, so we took a bus from Bangkok to Chiang Mai and as soon as we were in the centre of the city we went in different directions.
My first impression? Well, there were some tears (just a few), but then I realised I just need to find some nice room, get breakfast, and enjoy my day. So simple!
It was quite early in the morning and all the guesthouses were still full, so I headed to a lovely garden café and ordered a cup of expansive coffee. I read a bit, wrote something in my journal, checked Facebook and other time consuming websites. After all that I had nothing else to do and I was.. lost. I mean, I was still in the café, but for the first time in a while I was sitting alone, with nothing to do with my hands and no one to talk to. The most simple situation made me feel really uncomfortable. But I had two days on my own to fill with pleasure and fun, and in the end it turned out good! I think there are some good things about being alone and some bad ones as well. My list of pros and cons would be like this.
- You make your own time-table. There is no need to hurry because nobody is waiting for you, and, of course, you don’t have to wait for anyone either!
- You make your own plans. If you are not in a mood for going sightseeing you can just stay in a hotel and read. Or do nothing. Nobody will be disappointed with your laziness.
- It’s nice not to talk all the time. If you don’t talk for most of the day your head becomes more clear. You are not distracted when you don’t want to be, you can just enjoy the surrounding! If you get lonely, you can always talk to yourself (but I don’t recommend doing it out-loud).
- You can experience the feeling of being lost. When I walk around with Kevin, I almost never pay attention to the road, because I don’t have to. Kev always knows the way, so I’m in a comfortable position of the follower. This time I was on my own so I had to guide myself. I had a few panic attacks (‘I DON’T KNOW THIS STREET, I’M GONNA DIE ALONE IN THAILAND’), but I survived.
- Well, if you are shy or don’t feel good with strangers, it can be lonely. I mean, sometimes I’m not in a mood for making new friends, and while all the other guys in my hotel were hanging out together in the garden, I was the lonely weirdo with a book.
- Sometimes there are so many funny/weird/crazy things happening on the street that you have an urge to comment it. Usually I just turn my head to Kev and say something funny. This time I had to be my own companion, so I had a lot of conversations with myself about everything.
- It’s really important to have the right people with you when you travel, otherwise it would be a hard time. I was lucky enough to have the best person next to me, and without him I was bored a bit 😀
So, after 2 long days spent alone (I know it’s not the world record, but you have to start it easy!) I must say I really liked it! I went to many great temples, I visited a Chinese market, and while being lost I discovered a great street in Nepalese style. Also, I could sleep till late (Kevin is an early bird hehe), I could choose my own ways, and I had a chance to be quiet for a moment. That was awesome, and I wouldn’t mind doing it once in a while. But I have to admit, I was pretty happy to have Kevin back next to me
Kevin, on the other hand, had some spare time to do business. Some of you might know that he and his mum have opened a webshop – www.fairlyhearts.nl ! Many of the products that they want to sell are made in Thailand, so Kevin could have a real business meeting! The Fairly Hearts shop was finally opened when we were in Chiang Mai and things got real. Check out natural soy wax candles and other body and soul friendly stuff